Friday, December 16, 2011

Big problem please help!!!!!!?

i dont have custody of my 3 children right now. the reason i do not is because before my divorce to my exhusband was final i let him and his mother take my kids for a visit, when i went to pick up my kids at the end of the visit no one was there and i spent 2 weeks looking for my kids before i found out that my ex and his mother had run off with my kids. during those 2 weeks i lost my job because of having to take the time off while looking for my kids and consequently lost my apartment so that when i went to court i was having to live with friends while i was looking for a new job and apartment. my exhusbands mother has custody right now because my ex is mentally unstable and because again at that time i didnt have a job or my own home. i am supose to get my kids every other weekend for visitation in my home, which i have my own place now, just saving for a lawyer to go for custody again. anyway, my ex's mother will never let me take my kids when its my visit time. she always says my kids r sick or she has things planned or a miriad of other excuses, the only way she will let me see my kids is if i stay at her house for litterally days at a time. i have done thins for a few months now and i cant stay there anymore. when i am there she treats me as though im there to be her maid. i dont get any actual time with my kids because she has me out running her errands and cooking for her (she has woken me up at 1am to cook for her when ive been there) she also calls her friends and asks if they need anything because if they do shell send me out to do it so i end up running other peoples errands as well. she will not let me do one thing as a mother for my kids. she lets them stay up until 4am on school nites, doesnt give them breakfast, bathes them no more than twice a week and feeds them junk constantly. we have a guardian ad litem but any concern i ever take to her she does nothing about it. when i stay there my ex's mother and i just get into arguments over how she cares for my kids and she insists on arguing infront of my kids so i shut up cuz i wont argue infront of my kids but they feel the tention. and anytime i try to talk to her about the things she does that upsets me concerning my kids she flips out she starts yelling and crying etc... i cant handle it so i have stopped going to stay at her house and am trying to get ahole of our guardian ad litem to inforce my court order that says i can take my kids to my home for visitation but she will not return my calls and shes never in when i go to her office. because of all this i havent seen my kids in a few weeks and its killing me. i dont know what to do. when i do stay there at her house i get no time with my kids because im a maid and im afraid to make my ex's mother mad because she likes to get even and i dont know what shell do. i want to see my kids, its killing me to be away from them but i cannot stay in her home and i cant let my kids see how she treats me and i wont be a cause of stress for my kids. what do i do please help me. thak you.

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